This is an open letter to my husband, the non-snuggler. Today, I get to gloat a bit, and all in the name of science. Turns out, my snuggling habits may just very well be saving my hub's life. (YOU HEAR THAT, MR. M?)
According to a recent study, couples may get health benefits simply from sleeping in the same bed. And guess what, hubs? Some scientists believe that sleeping with a partner may be a major reason why people with close relationships tend to be in better health and live longer. My cuddling in our cozy bed is totally helping you live longer. You're welcome.
The new research runs counter to studies that show women don't sleep as well with a partner and both men and women move around more when sleeping together. Other bed battles that interrupt couples' sleep include sheet-stealing and differing bedtimes and room-temperature preferences.
Ok, sure. I'm what you call a serial monogamous snuggler. Is that so bad? I don't think so. Unless, of course, you're my husband. As much as I love a shoulder to fall asleep on, he likes to be left alone, untouched. Over the years we've come to a compromise. Pre-sleep, I get to snuggle up to him and fall asleep on his shoulder. When he's ready to fall asleep, he quietly turns to his side, and in two seconds is out cold. It works for us. I get my bonding time, and so does he. With his pillow, sans me.
According to this research, sleeping together in the same bed promotes feelings of safety and security, and may lower levels of cortisol, a stress hormone. Sharing a bed may also reduce cytokines, involved in inflammation, and boost oxytocin, the so-called love hormone that is known to ease anxiety and is produced in the same part of the brain responsible for the sleep-wake cycle. So even though sharing a bed may make people move more, "the psychological benefits we get having closeness at night trump the objective costs of sleeping with a partner," says Dr. Troxel, assistant professor of psychiatry and psychology at the University of Pittsburgh.
Ok, sure...this sharing a bed/health benefit thing may work more in my favor, but it's all about me anyway...right?
"Women enjoy male presence psychologically even though it costs them minutes or even hours of sleep," says John Dittami, a behavioral endocrinologist and biological rhythms specialist at the University of Vienna and the lead author of the study. The issue is that women are more sensitive to their environments, he says.
Potato, tomato I say. Snuggling in the same bed is totally saving both our lives. Science said so.
-KM
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